I’m used to men trying – and failing – to put out my fire for ...


I’m used to men trying – and failing – to put out my fire for younger men

Men like the president of Brazil trot out a cliché that stands no chance against women who go after what they want

Kate Mulvey

When I heard that Jair Bolsonaro, Brazil’s president, whose wife is 37 years his junior, had allegedly endorsed a social media comment mocking his French counterpart, Emmanuel Macron, for having a wife nearly 25 years his senior, my eyes nearly rolled out of my head.

Not only was it the kind of juvenile mudslinging we’re now so accustomed to from our so-called “strongmen” leaders but, as an older woman who has dated younger men, it was pretty typical of the casual ageism you come to expect when you dare to upset the rules.

I distinctly remember being at a dinner party, when a male guest looked at me, raised his eyebrow and smirked: “Kate, so howz it going?” I caught a few people tittering, and felt the usual pang of hurt...

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