In a dull rut? Tell this sex therapist - she’s heard ‘almost ...


In a dull rut? Tell this sex therapist - she’s heard ‘almost everything’

I’ve been compared to Gillian Anderson’s character in ‘Sex Education’. Well, this is a day in my life

Dr Karen Gurney

As a clinical psychologist who specialises in sex, I’m used to people talking to me about their private lives. Outside of my practice, when people ask me what I do for a living, they often can’t resist telling me their own stories.

We are so conditioned to think of sex as a taboo topic that hearing my job title often gives them permission to reveal all. Often they want reassurance that what is happening in their bedroom is normal, and the gap between what they know and what they should know, combined with the fact that 34% of women in the UK are concerned about their desire, is what inspired me to write Mind the Gap.

In my practice, clients often feel that they are bringing something unusual to me, but the reality is there’s not much I haven’t heard before. It’s never a struggle to remain professional as I’m always listening, thinking and considering which therapy technique or bit of science to bring in next. My office is quite minimalist, with a selection of couches and armchairs so couples can choose to sit next to each other or apart, depending on how they are feeling. I have plenty of plants and pictures (no nudes though) partly because many people find it hard to make eye contact when talking about sex, so it can be useful for them to have something to look at...

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