These are the sex addicts who have never had sex

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These are the sex addicts who have never had sex

A whole generation has become so used to porn that the idea of physical contact repulses it

Andy Jones

Kabir*, 26, is looking for porn on the internet compulsively, as he has done every day before and after work since he began a full-time job.

Instead of socialising or working, Kabir spends almost £400 (R7,700) a month talking to sex-cam girls, who charge him for the opportunity to instruct them on how to undress or pleasure themselves on camera. He drinks Red Bull and black coffee to stay awake. Frayed and ashamed, he now wants to stop.

I find him on a sex-cam confessions thread of the forum NoFap – an anti-porn site where men, desperate to stop looking at explicit material, counsel each other. Many of the users of NoFap are also non-porn consumers: wives of addicts; mums trying to wean their sons or sometimes daughters off porn; and even siblings looking to stage an intervention...

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