A grief like no other: what my daughter’s death at 21 taught me
Amelia's shock death from epilepsy left her family reeling. This is how they tried to put their lives back together
“Grief” is such a short word. “Armageddon” and “catastrophe” seem far more proportionate in the length-to-impact ratio, but I’ve learnt that, though short, the word “grief” carries a punch.
A few days before Christmas, as my family gathered, my middle daughter, Amelia, was found by her sisters under water in the bath. At first we believed Amelia had drowned, but she had in fact died – suddenly and shockingly – of an epileptic seizure.
Epilepsy is a condition involving irregular electrical short circuits in the brain. It isn’t curable or contagious, but it can, in some cases, be controlled. The condition can appear at any age, get worse, or better, or just stop. In the UK, around 25 people a week die suddenly from a seizure. We had absolutely no idea that Amelia was to be one of those...